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Broken Promises and Agreements
What do you do if a dominant breaks a promise? Do you accept an apology, forget about it and go on? Watch to see if it becomes a consistent pattern? Does it matter to you whether the promise was made...
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Alternative Sexual Practices – Kent State article response
first posted 9/17/06 @ 5:34 PM EST; updated 12/17/09 =============================== In response to the 9/14/06 article in the Kent State “Stater Online” entitled “Alternative sexual practices abound...
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Dominants Coming Through on Their Word
@Xinergy said on Fetlife: The Dominant failing to come through with what they say they are going to do is devastating to the submissive. The submissive is in this lifestyle because they need that...
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Criteria For a Play Partner
When I think of the phrase “play partner” per se, that to me automatically implies something casual, not a relationship per se. For a casual play partner, I don’t have really set criteria, except that...
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Sadism For the Sake of Sadism – or What is Pure Sadism?
I consider a pure sadist, in the BDSM context, to be someone who gets off in some way from hurting others, regardless of whether or not that person likes it, and even prefers it when they don’t – or at...
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Honesty and Lying in Relationships
What are your expectations from a partner regarding honesty vs lying? Do you think that lying is ever OK? ================================================ I personally expect full openness and...
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I Miss… I Don’t Miss
12/22/09 Every morning I still awaken with the thought of how much I miss you, how much I want to be with you again, how much I miss being in your arms. And then my mind changes course, and I correct...
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I Will Not Apologize
Stolen from multiple people on Fetlife: ========================================= I will not apologize for setting my own personal boundaries. I will not apologize for doing whatever it takes to...
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How You Can Help Combat the Abuse Problem
A newbie I met the other day told a tale of being abused or having her limits violated when playing with someone she said is well known at the Citadel, our local community playspace. She said she’d...
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Tolerating Criminal Behavior in the Scene, and Judging Others
Several things have happened over the years that have had me really starting to look at what happens in our circles when clearly and unambiguously illegal behavior comes to light. My first encounter...
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